5 Things I Wish I’d Known About Having A Teenage Son
Mothers pay for every moment of joy with anxiety, stress, and even anger at others and themselves. At least, that’s how I feel about motherhood. Those who once were tiny, innocent creatures are so challenging at times.
Sometimes I love them because they’re cute, bring flowers, and give sticky kisses. Other times, I love them despite a ton of little or not-so-little things. And it all happens gradually as they start growing.
If you don’t have a teenage son yet, here are some things you can expect.
1. The Last-Minute Adventure
When my son was little, I daydreamed about the day he would be old enough to join me in unplanned traveling adventures. But no, this isn’t about how you can finally book a city break on a Thursday night and jump on the plane the following day. He’s old enough to travel with a backpack only, but we have to save for college now.
The last-minute adventures you get with a teenage son are finding the perfect gift two hours before a birthday party or making sure he has a clean shirt for an event that’s about to start in a few hours.
Law No. 1 of motherhood should be, “Your teenage son always remembers he needs a ride, a gift, or clean clothes one hour before the event.” It happens regardless of when the invitation arrived.
2. The Zoo
You won’t have to take your kid to the zoo anymore because now, all the wild animals have started living in your house. Or, at least, that’s how my son’s room smells.
When your son becomes a teenager, you’ll have to block time in your calendar to remind him to take a shower, clean his room, and open those windows. And you’ll have to do that several times a day because they never listen. Which brings us to No. 3.
3. The Earbuds
One random day, you’ll notice that earbuds have grown into your teenager’s ears. A consequence of this temporary mutation is his ability to ignore you all the time. He won’t be talking to you when you’re in the car together, and you won’t hear from him for hours when you’re both at home.
Yelling doesn’t work, so you’ll have to go the extra mile to capture and maintain his attention. The perfect moment to do that is when he’s hungry and vulnerable.
4. The Selective Hearing
The second law of motherhood: “Despite keeping his phone around all day, your teenage son will never hear or see your call.” It’s a paradox, so don’t even try to understand what’s happening there. After several attempts, I decided it was too dangerous to go down that rabbit hole.
Teenagers have an explanation for everything, and you don’t have the energy to keep combating them. Ask me how I know.
5. The Embarrassment
No, I’m not embarrassed by my son, regardless of what I’ve listed above. I know it’s just a phase in his life. I, too, was a teenager, so I can understand the need to be different and define your identity.
He’s the one who’s embarrassed by my presence. When they’re kids, you can’t use the toilet without them sticking around. Once they become teenagers, they want to cancel you from their social lives forever. So, I try to accept it and enjoy the freedom.
He’s almost 15 now, and I’m sure the worst is yet to come. Sometimes, it’s funny to see all of these changes and to be an active part of his evolution. It’s also challenging, so start banking your patience now, because you’ll need it.