What to Remember About Raising Children
Kids want to be seen, heard, and cared for by loving adults. Remembering yourself as a child and recalling what you needed is a beautiful way to remind yourself of the needs of children. Kids are learning about the world, who they are, and how they fit in. Adults must keep in mind how fragile kids are and the power that adults possess to empower or disempower their children. Here's a few things to remember when raising children.
Adults Need to Remember:
- That kids have feelings and benefit significantly from being allowed to explore and express their feelings
- That kids are impacted by the things that adults expose them to
- That kids are affected by how adults respond to their problems
- That kids have memories about how adults made them feel
- That kids have boundaries
- That kids are not companions or confidants
- That kids lack the mental capacity to appropriately manage adult issues, no matter what their behavior reflects
This post is part of a series by Nedra Glover Tawwab, a licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert. For more wisdom from Nedra, follow her on Instagram @nedratawwab or check out her website, www.nedratawwab.com.