4 Self-Love Habits We Don't Do Enough
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I am a firm believer that being nice can actually get you a long way, especially with yourself. Sometimes our inner thoughts can be really harmful to our mental health and well-being. If it's not something you would say to someone you love, why say it to yourself? It isn’t easy not to pick on yourself, especially on those days when you just feel like you're messing up. But there are ways to improve, and when you practice self-appreciation and positive ways to speak to yourself, you’ll realize just how important it is to always be kind to you.
Listen to Yourself
Let’s say you missed your morning alarm, spilled ketchup on your white blouse, and got to class late. Before you blame yourself for what went wrong, try to stop and think about why it happened. Maybe you overslept because you have been working way too hard. Or maybe you failed your test because you simply need extra help on the subject. Sometimes we fail to listen to what our bodies are trying to tell us because our first instinct is to blame ourselves instead of realizing what the real problem is.You have to take care of yourself first.
Focus on What Went Right
Our minds tend to focus on everything that is going wrong instead of what’s going right. If you stop and think about it, there is so much more good that is happening all around you that you may not realize. Although the day might not have turned out the way you planned, shift your mind to focus on something you achieved, or something else you may look forward to throughout the week. Sometimes, when you let go of the stresses of the day and work on not blaming yourself, you’ll realize some things are not as bad as they seem in your mind.
You will always be there for yourself even when no one else will be, so try practicing being someone you can count on. That means let yourself know it will be okay. Focus on thoughts that actually bring you value and constructive ideas. When we use inner dialogue that is hurtful, it may lead to making your current situation worse. Focus on reassurance and remember that some problems have their own funny way of working themselves out.
Prioritize Your Mental Health
If you are not okay, nothing you do will be. Take on hobbies that you love, visit places and people that bring you joy, and don’t be afraid to set your own boundaries. Your mental health is the driving force of your daily thoughts. When you take care of yourself, you’ll learn how to value yourself, and you will soon realize that you will never want to hurt someone you love. Especially you.