My Husband and I Have Grown Closer During COVID-19
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I recently joked to my husband that our time at home since March has been the most time we have ever spent together. I suppose it is not really a joke, though, since it is the truth. While some couples are struggling during their time together, my marriage has grown stronger — my husband and I have actually grown closer.
Although the circumstances surrounding the pandemic have been unfortunate, I have been grateful to be able to spend more time with my husband. I do not often gloat about him but he is a very involved father and partner. When I am feeling particularly overwhelmed or anxious about everything going on — from health concerns to finances — he tries to calm my nerves. When he cannot and I am overly stressed, he steps in and takes over parenting and household duties. Without hesitation. No questions asked.
My husband has shown me what “showing up” completely and without fail really means.
I wished for more time together when he was in the military and stationed 5,000 miles away from me for three years.
Have we gotten on each other’s nerves? At times. We are human, after all, and we are two different people living and parenting together during this challenging time. You, however, will not hear me complaining, because I had wished so badly for all this time together throughout different points in our relationship.
I wished for more time together when he was in the military and stationed 5,000 miles away from me for three years. I wished for it when we spent over 200 days apart during his deployment abroad. I wished for it when our relationship felt like one big countdown to our reunions and one big impending countdown to “see you later.” I wished for it when we worked opposite schedules and went days without seeing each other. I wished for it every time our toddler cried because he missed “Daddy” at bedtime while my husband worked nights.
Every Day Together Is a Gift
I have missed my husband so much over the course of our relationship. Although it has brought on many tears and much sadness, it has also provided me with a unique perspective. That perspective has given me appreciation for every second we get together, and it is why I am grateful for all this time we have now.
I think of every day as a gift, and although no day is perfect, there is possibility for good in every single day. So, if you are in a healthy and happy relationship, try to make the most of your days together. Be grateful for the time alongside one another. It is a gift so many others wish they could have. After all, time is not promised.
NOTE: I do know COVID-19 presents a unique challenge for survivors of domestic violence, for whom being home with their abusers is unsafe. If you are in an abusive relationship, please know help is still available. The National DV Hotline number is 1-800-799-7233. It is free, confidential, and available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.