People Help People Without Fixing Their Problems

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It’s natural to want to help people. But sometimes, people just want to be heard. You can’t always fix someone else’s problems. But if you’re truly supportive, you can enable a scenario where you can help them help themselves.

What to Say

  • "I can hear you struggling with this"
  • "That sounds difficult for you"
  • "How have you thought about resolving this?"
  • "I don't have the answers for you, but I can listen as you share"
  • "What are some solutions you considered?"

What to Do

  • Sit with them
  • Offer a hug
  • Listen to them
  • Be present
  • Ask them how they feel
  • Help them explore options

This post is part of a series by Nedra Glover Tawwab, a licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert. For more wisdom from Nedra, follow her on Instagram @nedratawwab or check out her website, www.nedratawwab.com.

Tags: Illustration, Marriage, Dating, Love Life, Friends, family, Family Connection, mindful communication

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Nedra Glover Tawwab, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW

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