4 Self-Love Habits We Don't Do Enough
I am a firm believer that being nice can actually get you a long way, especially with yourself. Sometimes our inner thoughts can be harmful to our mental health and well-being. If it's not something we would say to someone we love, why would we say it to ourselves? But, on those days when we feel like we're messing up, it can be extra challenging to infuse ourselves with positive self-talk. The more we practice self-appreciation and positive self-dialogue, the easier it becomes to value the necessity of being kind to ourselves. Read on for four self-love and self-respect tips many of us just don't do enough of.
1Listen to Yourself
Let’s say you missed your morning alarm, dripped egg on your blouse, and arrived late to your meeting. Before you blame yourself for what went wrong, dissect what happened. Perhaps you overslept because you're exhausted from working so hard. Or maybe you failed to come through on a project because you needed help and neglected to ask for it amidst everything else. Sometimes we fail to listen to what our body is trying to tell us because our first instinct is to blame ourselves instead of realizing what the real problem is. We must pause so we can take care of ourselves.
2Focus on What Went Right
Our minds tend to focus on everything that is going wrong instead of what’s going right. If we stop and assess, there is often more good happening around us than we realize in our hustle and haste. Although the day might not have turned out the way we planned, we have the power to shift our mind to focus on what we achieved, or focus on something else in the coming week. When we let go of the stresses of the day and stop blaming ourselves for any glitches along the way, we make room for more peace and a positive view.
We will always be there for ourselves even during times when no one else appears to be, so it makes sense to practice being the someone we can count on. That means we can reassure ourselves we know we'll be okay. We can focus on thoughts that bring us value and constructive ideas. When we speak a negative inner dialogue to ourselves, it's even more hurtful than hearing it from someone else, and leads to further negatively impacting our current state. We can focus on the reassurance that some problems have their own funny way of working themselves out.
4Prioritize Your Mental Health
When we are not okay, it is difficult to find ways to feel as though we are. It's important to be cognizant to our state of mind, and to fill our lives with people, places, and activities that bring out the best — emotions, choices, life outlooks — in us. Focusing our minds and time on hobbies and activities we love, and visiting places and people who bring us joy saturate our brains in feel-good chemicals that help balance our mental wellness (which is the driving force of our daily thoughts). When we take care of ourselves, we won't waver in valuing ourselves when facing challenges, and we'll solidify our resolve to never hurt those we love — including ourselves.